It seems that everyone is looking for their Soul Mate yet not everyone agrees on what a Soul Mate actually is. Some people believe that their Soul Mate is someone that god created to be with them. Others believe their Soul Mate is another Soul that has shared many lives with them through reincarnations. My personal belief is that we can actually have many Soul Mates throughout our existence. Not only do I feel that my husband is a Soul Mate but also many close friends over the years have been Soul Mates. Heck, I even think those who have broken my heart the hardest were Soul Mates. I am actually grateful for those heart breaks because they made me appreciate the right one when he came into my life.
You see, I believe that my husband is my primary Soul Mate where as the other people who have touched my life in profound ways have been Soul Mates as well. I guess I believe in destiny on more levels than just romance. I believe that even people who break our hearts may have been predestined to do so. It’s my belief that life is a series of lessons and we learn those lessons from many, many people that we interact with over our life times. So to me Soul Mates are not just about romance but about human relationships and all the different kinds of love and lessons in this life.
That said, I will now focus on the kind of Soul Mate that relates to my Blog. It is, after all, a Blog about Romance and finding love. As those of you who have followed my Blog from the beginning know I met my husband on the internet and it was sort of a “love BEFORE first site” kind of meeting. To say it was a whirlwind romance is putting it mildly. I met him on a Friday night and after a few days of messaging and talking on the phone we set a date for the following Friday. Then just two Fridays later I moved in with him and we were married just four months later. I know, I know, it sounds completely insane but sometimes you just KNOW.
How did we know? Well, for one thing when I met him I honestly felt like I was meeting another part of myself. It was the strangest feeling that I had never felt before and have not felt since. It was as if we were the same person that had been living two separate lives up to that point and now that we had met we would be living just one life together. Meeting him felt like I had found my home in this world. Words cannot do it justice but I think I’m getting my point across.
When I look back on that meeting 11 years ago I am just astounded. There I was in Los Angeles growing up and doing my thing while my Soul Mate was in Salt Lake City growing up and doing his thing. It just astounds that the Internet was able to allow us to cross paths. I mean, talk about strange! Without it we would have never met. Not only is Salt Lake City hundreds of miles from Los Angeles but it’s worlds away in culture! We would have never met if we hadn’t both been open to change and using new avenues to meet people.
So, to those of you who are lonely and searching for your Soul Mate I say be open to different ways to find them. Perhaps they aren’t even living in the city or state you are living in. Don’t rule out using the Internet and Online Dating. Isn’t it possible that, like mine, your Soul Mate could live in a different city? My advice to you is to use the chat feature on Dating Sites. They’re full of people looking for the same thing you are. My second piece of advice will seem to contradict my first piece of advice but trust me it really doesn’t: When you are in those chat rooms just relax, have fun and don’t actively pursue anyone in there until you get to know them a little bit first. Do a little bit of playing hard to get during those first few hours of meeting. It will make you immensely more attractive, I promise. So just hang out in chat, make some friends and see what comes your way. Then after meet someone that way you should seriously try doing some Virtual Dating, you will love it, I swear! :-)
If you aren’t currently a member of a Dating Site that offers Chat as well as Virtual Dating you may want to check out the links at the top of this page. All of the sites listed offer those as well as other features… Thanks!