Fish and I met at Chat Camp. He kept eating the hodge podge paste and using the Glitzy Glue as eye shadow then he danced around the camp singing … Ï’m a wood nymph, I’m a wood nymph” … it was instant love
Hello to all. Just a short blog today to ask if any of you have any of your own Dating Site or other Internet romance stories you would like to see posted on my blog. Have you used a dating site before? Did you go on any memorable dates? Did you meet any psycho Singles in a chat room? I can change names and will edit it for you so you don’t have to worry about grammar or any typos. Either Love Stories or Horror Stories would be truly appreciated! Thanks a lot and have a great day…
Please Email your stories to AmericanCurvyGirl@gmail.com and make the subject “My Story” and thanks again!
As you read through the Love Stories in my previous blog posts you probably wonder how it is so many people fell so head over heels for each other before they ever met in person. It really is common for two people to feel totally connected when they meet online. I myself have been there, so I’ve put quite a lot of thought into why it seems to happen to so many couples who met Online. I believe the reason is because when you meet someone online and get to know them in that realm, you have nothing else to do but get to know each other.
You see, when you meet someone the old fashioned way you generally start out on a date, at a party, a club, a bar or any other number of places. With all of that there are a lot of distractions. Other friends, waiters, bartenders, television, music or just people in general are all around you so your focus is generally a little more scattered.
A direct example of this is if you and your date go to dinner and a movie. Sure you spend about three to four hours together but most of that time your focus is on the movie, the menu, the waiter or other people in the restaraunt. Very little of that time is spent getting to know each other. To the contrary, when you meet someone online there is nothing else to do at all but to get to know each other. I would go so far as to say that three to four hours of talking online or on the phone is equal to six to eight traditional dates. Also you don’t have the added distraction or stress of wondering if there’s spinach in your teeth or if your hair is sticking up, or whether there’s a candy cane stuck to your butt from sitting on it in his messy car. (Sadly that’s a true story and it happened to me on my VERY first date when I was a teenager. Shup! Stop laughing at me! It was bad enough at the time it happened and people were pointing and laughing at completely oblivious little ol’ me!) It’s just a lot easier and way more comfortable to just relax and enjoy the process of learning about each other when you get to know each other online first.
Many couples who meet online get really comfortable with each other before they ever meet in person. What that does is make them almost instantly comfortable with each other when they do meet face to face. I’m not going to say there isn’t any nervousness or awkwardness at all when you finally do go on that first real life date but I will say the awkwardness and nervous feelings dissapate much faster when you’ve already made that deep connection online and on the phone before actually meeting.
This is why Virtual Dating works so well for people. It provides the perfect medium for getting to know each other in the comfort of your own seperate homes. I must admit that when I first heard of Virtual Dating I thought it was a little weird. I wondered how it could produce such fantastic results for couples who choose to do it. Then I realized that what it can do is slow down the pace of online dating while at the same time it can speed up and intensify the connection the couple feels toward each other.
The old way of online dating was that you saw someone’s profile, made contact through email then set up a real life date not really knowing who that person is. With Virtual Dating you can slow down that process and get to know that person you’re interested in before you go on the actual date. It saves you the time and the hassle of going on dates with people you really don’t feel a connection with. However, if it is someone you CAN connect with it actually speeds up that connection allowing for a much more comfortable real life date.
Do you now understand the allure of meeting online? Do you get this whole Virtual Dating thing now that I’ve laid it out step by step? I certainly hope so because explaining all of this made my brain hurt a little…lol. Also keep in mind that all four of the dating sites at the top of this page offer Virtual Dating so there’s no need to go out hunting for a site that offers it. So once again I say to you Single People, go on out there and find yourselves some love!
I see a LOT of rules about dating out there. I know people mean well when they give you advice about what not to do on a first date but are those rules really necessary?
There are so many do’s and don’ts out there that it’s no wonder a first date can be a truly frightening experience. We can end up spending the entire date second guessing and over thinking every word that comes out of our mouth! God forbid there be someone with a baby at a near by table. You might accidentally let it slip that the baby is cute and your date will probably assume that you’re out to get married and have six babies of your own, OH NO!
And what if you accidentally let it slip that you have an ex? Nooooooo! You can’t do that! On this night you’re supposed to pretend that you just hatched this morning so you have absolutely zero baggage. The first date is supposed to give the impression that you are perfection personified. It’s a night for putting your best face on and pretending you aren’t anything like yourself.
According to all the best intentioned advice out there for daters you are supposed to almost lie about who you are and how you feel. You’re supposed to let people “get to know you” before you start talking about who you really are and what you really want from your personal relationships. My question is how can someone get to know you if you aren’t putting your true self out there?
Then there’s the dreaded after date drama. The game of men waiting two days before they call and women agonizing whether or not they should pick up the phone and call him instead. Come on, we’ve all done this so you know exactly what I’m talking about. The what to do after the date dilemma is almost worse than the phony date part! Here’s my rule about when to call: Call when you want to call. Don’t start off a relationship playing games even if society says you should. If they wanted you to call they will be happy you’ve done it. If they didn’t want you to call then you will find out that bit of information even sooner, right?
I’m sorry but for me all this stuff is just total B.S. I think we should just be ourselves from the get go. If the attraction and chemistry is there and it’s meant to be, there will be NOTHING you can say that will ruin it. What can ruin the date is the stress of trying to hide your true self. How many nervous daters have done something stupid and out of character like drinking one too many cocktails and acting like a drunken fool on the first date? Although, even if that happens I still contend that if it’s meant to be it will be and your date will forgive you even for that if they like you.
If what you really want in life is a big family just say it. Wouldn’t it be better to know if the person you’re dating never wants children from the start so you don’t waste your time going on three dates and possibly getting attached to someone who is not a match? Do you really want to start liking someone before you find out that your goals in life will never match up?
Let me back up what I’m saying with a real life story.
The night I met my husband on the internet he spent no less than two hours lamenting to me over something his last girlfriend did to him! Yes I was bored silly with the conversation and yes I thought okay, you’re being a bit of a weirdo, but guess what? The attraction was there and I didn’t really blame him for being upset that she hacked his email account and stalked him (See “Horror Story: When Harry met Hairy” for the whole story) so I understood why he was so upset.
Then on our first date he actually FARTED! I remember thinking “Ummmmm did he just let one rip???? Ummm well I guess he’s comfortable with me!” So I just smiled, moved away a little, and pretended not to notice. I should have taken that as an omen for things to come but I still love him eleven years later gas and all…lol.
I think I’ve made my point. Just be yourself and if it’s meant to be it will be. Don’t waste your time pretending to be someone or something you’re not and just let the chips fall where they may. People truly interested in the real YOU will not be afraid or put off by the real you.
Isn’t that what love is all about anyway? Finding someone to love you for you, even if you’re gassy or want marriage and six children.
When I was younger I used to wonder why I could never find a happy, fulfilling relationship. I was so lonely and miserable even when I had a boyfriend. Part of the problem was I was attracted to bad boys. Like a lot of people out there I over looked nice people. I wasn’t attracted to men who weren’t a challenge. At the same time, though it seems contradictory, I wanted men who wanted me. In other words, if an attractive bad boy wanted me, I wanted him. I didn’t stop to ask myself what I liked about them and if they were good for me. I just went with the flow.
During that time I would hope and pray I would find someone who would truly love me. Then off I’d go in hot pursuit of another bad boy, hoping he would change his bad ways and fall head over heels in love with me. The problem was that I did catch quite a few of those bad boys and all they did was make me miserable. I went from heart break to heart break feeling unimportant, lonely and down right unlovable. I was always blaming myself too. Beating myself up and dragging myself down thinking I was too fat or too stupid or too something.
Don’t get me wrong here. I wasn’t entirely miserable. I had a lot of fun in those days too. I was happy in my life in general it was only the love department that made me miserable. I’ve lived a life full of crazy laughter and fun but something was definitely missing. I think the truth was that even though I secretly pined for someone to love me and sometimes cried myself to sleep at night because I was lonely, I didn’t really want that. Some part of me was very aware that I did not want to settle down. It was that subconscious knowledge that kept me interested in those bad boys.
Something else I find interesting is that we’ve all noticed that when we’re single and looking it seems like the opposite sex seems less than interested in us. Yet, the minute we’re in a committed relationship the opposite sex seems to wake up to our greatness and find us suddenly appealing. People have theorized that it’s because we stop giving off a desperate vibe. I have my own theory on this. I think it’s because a lot of people tend to want what we can’t have because they aren’t ready for love. I think we make a lot of decisions about love on a subconscious level.
The biggest problem comes when we truly are ready for love yet we hold onto our old self destructive habits. I know for me it was slow process of awakening that ended with an epiphany. It suddenly occurred to me after months of soul searching, what I had been doing for years. I realized that when I met men who might offer me a healthy and happy relationship I just wasn’t interested in them at all. I hadn’t done any of this by setting standards too high, like many people do, I had done it by being completely and utterly uninterested in nice guys. You know, the kind of guy that can promise to love you forever and never leave you and actually mean it.
The night of my epiphany I decided that I was going to be open to nice guys. I wasn’t going to shut them out or blow them off as desperate losers. I was going to get serious about finding real, healthy, happy love. Two days later (I kid you not) I met the man who has been my husband for the last 11 years. It’s amazing what can happen when you start getting real with yourself and open yourself up to realistic possibilities isn’t it?
As for those women who tell me they just can’t help chasing bad boys, I say to them that ALL men have a bad boy streak. Even the nicest guy in the world has some bad boy hidden in there somewhere. Just hang around long enough and you’ll find it and trust me, it’s worth it.
These days it seems like everyone is obsessed with their Smart Phones. Why wouldn’t they be? It’s like carrying the world wide web in your pocket and the list of things you can do on your phone is endless. So it’s no surprise that Online Dating has gone mobile too.
That means you can search for singles and browse profiles right from your phone. You can also text with other singles without compromising your privacy. Because when you use the Go Mobile Feature on 3MillionSingles.com, CurvyLove.com, Uniform2Love.com or Soldier2love.com you will be assigned a random anonymous mobile number to communicate with other members. There’s also no codes for the user to enter, and your mobile number is never revealed to the other person.
In other words no one gets your cell phone number until you yourself decide to give it to them. Imagine the convenience! Now you can take your time getting to know other singles via SMS Text Messages from anywhere without worry of giving your number out and being bothered by someone you decide you’re not interested in.
Online Dating has never been so easy! With Mobile Dating you will never miss a message and you’ll be able to check for and respond to your messages from anywhere. See that hottie over there on that bench totally absorbed in their phone? Maybe they’re texting with a perspective date? Maybe they’re looking through profiles looking for the right one to add to their favorites? Or maybe they’re just playing Robot Unicorn Attack. You never know though, right?
So go forth single people! Go forth and meet new prospects in your quest to find companionship, love, friendship or maybe even multiply if that’s your thing.
Most of all, I wish you good luck. Not that you’ll need it with you being smart enough to harness the power of technology and use it to achieve whatever or whomever your little heart desires….
The latest trend in online dating is Virtual Dating. What is virtual dating? It’s kind of a practice date before committing to the real thing. By creating an avatar and doing a run through date with singles you’re interested in, you can become more comfortable with each other before actually meeting. Studies show that people who meet each other in person after having already done virtual dating together are more comfortable and at ease with other.
Virtual dating helps avoid first bad dates and leads to real life relationships. Research done by social scientists from Harvard, Duke and M.I.T. showed that people who go on virtual dates first tend to like each other more when they meet in-person and have more successful in person dates.
People also say it’s a lot of fun to do. Everyone I know who’s tried it has said it was a very enjoyable way to test the waters before going out on a real date. They say it’s a lot like the real thing but you don’t have to get dressed up for it. Sometimes people who set up a virtual date can discover that they are not a true match so it can also be a time saver.
All of the Online Dating Links at the top of this page offer Virtual Dating so if you’re interested in possibly giving it a try you should pick one and go check it out. I hope you will enjoy it as much as everyone else has and good luck!