We’ve all known, or at least heard about, someone who is always single because they just can’t find that perfect person to settle down with. Often times those people have a mother or friend who is exasperated by their perpetual need to be over choosey.
I’ve read articles urging these people to ease up on the quest for perfection and consider settling for someone less than perfect for them. If you ask me I think that is horrible advice! It’s like I always say, when it’s right you know it! The key word here is YOU know it, not your mother and certainly not your friends. The path you take in life is yours and yours alone and no one else should even feel that they can make such personal decisions for you.
That said, we’ve all also known or heard about those people who are overly picky yet they whine about being perpetually single. I say be patient with them. Some of us have a burning desire to find our Soul Mate and until we find them we aren’t going to live in peace. The problem is that sometimes these people expect chance, fate or god to deliver their perfect match to them. They keep waiting for that chance meeting at the grocery store or in some bar. Well I’m here to tell you that sometimes it just doesn’t work like that.
Sometimes you have to take the bull by the horns and actively seek out that special someone. Sure, it’s possible to meet someone by chance and it happens all the time but tell me something here… How long have you been waiting? Why not get out there and actually date people? I’m not going to tell you it will happen fast and I’m not going to tell you will happen slowly. Heck, I’m not even going to tell you will happen at all but what I can tell you is that you may as well get out and date and have fun while you’re looking!
If you’re lonely and searching for that special someone put away that silly pride of yours and join a dating site (like the ones listed at the top of this page) and start doing something about it! How often in life do things just fall into our lap? As adults we know we usually have to work to have good things. We go to college to get a good job. We save money to buy a house. We work for almost everything we get in life so why should you think about love any differently?
It’s also very possible that your overly picky tendency is there because you aren’t meant to be with anyone at all. Perhaps your path is one to walked alone. Some people live their whole lives single and yet they’ve found happiness anyway.
If the idea of a life spent single makes you panic a little then I would suggest that you stop waiting and start dating! Honestly, let’s get down to brass tacks here, there’s no one stopping you but you yourself.