I hear it all the time, Single men are constantly telling me they can’t find a good woman. They tell me they only attract the crazy ones, or the crazy ugly ones, or the crazy losers. I’m not going to spend this post telling you where to meet them. I think I’ve covered that but I will say it just one more time. There are links to good, quality, honest and feature loaded dating sites at the top of this page. Even if you browse singles and don’t see anyone you’re interested in today, keep checking back because your dream girl could join at any time.
Okay, that’s out of the way, so let’s get down to it boys. If you want to attract and keep a good stable woman…………..you have to be a good stable man. Yeah, I know what you’re thinking. Your friend “Joe” has a good stable woman and he’s a douche. Well what you don’t realize is that either that good stable woman is seriously flawed, and they aren’t telling you, or he’s about to turn her into one of those psycho chicks you keep running into.
Now, when I say you have to be a good stable man I don’t mean that you have to be rich. I just mean you need to be decently employed or in school studying for your stable future. Don’t get all up in arms at me thinking a good woman would look past all that, blah blah blah. No, I’m sorry but good stable people are good stable people because they demand certain qualities in life and in the people around them. When I say qualities I don’t mean money necessarily. It could mean ethics, religion, ambition or even just pride. Proud people don’t live on their friends couches. You don’t have to be super successful in your career to get the girl either. You just have to have a serious life plan and be working toward your goals. That’s usually good enough.
Decent, smart, stable women are attracted to men who share those same qualities. Think about it guys, no one wants to end up supporting some guy who can’t keep a job or take care of himself. Do you really blame us for that? Just show us that you’re capable of keeping a decent job and pulling your own weight and most of us are happy campers. Sure there are plenty of gold diggers out there but we’re talking about GOOD women here, not prostitutes who hide behind wife/girl friend labels.
Another thing is you need to demand that she be good and decent. If you’re dating a girl and she starts to show signs of being crazy or a liar, get away fast and move on. Don’t stick around for the great crazy chick sex either, just get out quickly before you get even more tangled up in her drama. Then look back and ask yourself some honest questions. Did you cause her to get crazy by cheating? Did you do something to bring out her insecurities? Were you hyper critical of her? If every single woman you date turns out to be crazy you may want to examine these questions, and more, a little more deeply.
Something else you may be thinking about is what if you get the good woman then lose your job? Would she leave you if you weren’t able to find another one quickly? Usually not but I can’t promise you that every woman who seems good truly is good. I can just tell you that when I met my husband, he happened to be making good money. I say “happened” because honestly I didn’t care what a man made so long as I wasn’t having to support him. Anyway, with the economy the way it’s been for the last 10+ years (I’m starting that back at the dot com crash that hit us so hard) he has never been able to make that kind of money since. There have been years, yes years, where he wasn’t able to find decent work. I worked and carried us through those times and at no point did I ever even consider divorce because I knew he wasn’t a loser and eventually he’d find something and of course he did.
So you see, a good man attracted and held onto a good woman even through the worst financial stresses. Love grows strongest through stability. The romanticized stuff about hard times bringing you closer is a load of poop because for most people hard times cause a huge strain on the relationship. I think that’s partly why smart stable women demand stable men. I find it highly interesting that stable men don’t always demand stability in women but then again, that’s your problem here isn’t it????
Just in case there are some women reading this, the same goes for you sister. Get your act together BEFORE you look for a man and you’ll be amazed just how stable a man you can find.
Say it with me people, and say it until it’s ingrained into your brains: STABILITY IS SEXY! INSTABILITY IS YUCKY! STABILITY IS SEXY! INSTABILITY IS YUCKY! STABILITY IS SEXY! INSTABILITY IS YUCKY!
If you are already a good stable man then focus on the part of this that said to demand stability in your women. Show some confidence! You’re a good stable man and that makes you a great catch! Demand a good quality woman and leave the crazies to the douches out there who deserve the drama!
So get your life together then go out there and find yourself some love and happiness because after you do all that work you will deserve nothing but the best right? Right.
Disclaimer: All women have hormones. All women are allowed to be slightly crazy for one week a month. Unless you are dealing with a menopausal woman. She is entitled to a few years of craziness and really, by the time that comes around you must forgive her for it after all she has done for you. :-P